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Overview of Gottman Method Couples Counseling

The Gottman Method Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman's research that began in the 1970s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. From this research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have created a method of therapy that emphasizes a nuts-and-bolts approach to improving clients' relationships.

This method is designed to help teach specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage resolvable problems and dialogue about gridlocked (or perpetual) issues. We will also work together to help you appreciate your relationship's strengths and to gently navigate through its vulnerabilities.

Gottman Method Couples Therapy Consists of Five Parts:

  • Assessment
  • Counseling
  • Out of Counseling
  • Termination
  • Outcome Evaluation

Early in the assessment phase, you will be given some written materials to complete that will help us better understand your relationship. In the first sessions we will talk about the history of your relationship, areas of concern, and goals for counseling.

In the next session, I will meet with each of you individually to learn your personal histories and to give each of you an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. In the final session of assessment, I will share with you my recommendations and work to define mutually agreed-upon goals for your counseling sessions.

Most of the work will involve sessions in which you will be seen together as a couple. However, there may be times when individual sessions are recommended. I may also give you exercises to practice between sessions.

The length of counseling will be determined by your specific needs and goals. In the course of the sessions, we will establish points at which to evaluate your satisfaction and progress. Also, I will encourage you to raise any questions or concerns that you have at any time. In the later stages of your sessions, we will phase out or meet less frequently in order for you to test out new relationship skills and to prepare for termination of counseling. Although you may terminate counseling whenever you wish, it is most helpful to have at least one session together to summarize progress, define the work that remains, and say good-bye.

In the outcome-evaluation phase, as per the Gottman Method, four follow-up sessions are suggested six months apart. These sessions have been shown through research to significantly decrease the chances of relapse into previous, unhelpful patterns. In addition, commitment to providing the best outcome possible requires ongoing evaluation of methods used and client progress. The purpose of these follow-up sessions then will be to fine-tune any of your relationship skills if needed and to evaluate the effectiveness of the counseling received.

A solid relationship is the most important gift one can receive in life, and it's my privilege to work with you to strengthen yours. You came to this page and have continued reading this far for a reason. I look forward to speaking with you, but you have to take the first step. Call us at 469-225-9040 or contact us online to take that step and learn how to care for your relationship. 

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